Fighting structures in Patriarchal society

I tried a lot to remain calm but no, it's high time. I always thought 'Life is simple if people try not to think too much and mind their own business'. Well how come we are supposed not to think and thus make life simple when everything around us and everyone around us is full of illogical shit. I don't want a simple life. I want to question every damn act I see and every philosophy put forward me. I won't be quiet. I am not supposed to. Everything disturbs my mind. I just wish I could remain calm. Some of the issues I found problematic in a stay of 15 days in bihar...

"SHOW RESPECT" There is a culture in Bihar to kneel down and touch the feet of people elder than you. Well, I never had a problem with it. But why am I supposed to touch the feet of a sex offender? Just because he is elder to me is not enough reason in this case. I won't ever kneel down before a person I don't think to be possessing any sort of humanity within his/her heart.

"WOMEN: SACRIFICE MACHINE" Well I don't know how to explain my relationship with this lady. She is my aunt I guess. She is a widow. She is younger than me. Got married at 10, became widow in her teenage, now she is a mother of 3 children. She is taking care of her whole family including her mother-in-law as she is a widow too. When I asked why didn't she marry again, she replied she couldn't abandon her children. This is not the whole scenario bothering me, problem is that whole male community around her wants to take advantage of her vulnerable (as society explains a widow's life: vulnerable and miserable) position. She is not appreciated for the things she does, the sacrifices she did, the way she is handling the whole economic crisis situation of her family but always frowned upon. I don't believe this system where women's sacrifices are not counted as if they are born to make sacrifices and live a miserable life.

"CHHOTA ADMI, BDA ADMI" Well I had quite a fight with my nani on this issue. We come from a dominant caste. And there is always some sort of domination based thinking which is penetrated from the very birth of a child. We still think that we are from a community deserving more respect and honour than the other and all the problems start from the very thinking that there are two WE: ONE IS MORE DESERVING AND OTHER LESS DESERVING.

I don't how to make these people understand that they are wrong in their perception of discriminating among people on the basis of birth(caste), in their thinking of allotting a lower position to women, to treat a sex offender as a criminal not someone deserving respect. I think, I will always fail in my attempt but still I can't listen to shit and be quiet about it. That is not me.

Well Good Luck to me.